I realized today how much I can’t stand this statement. I think it’s a horrible statement. Whenever I hear someone say, “I have to be honest with you or I’ll be honest with you” don’t you naturally think, “Aren’t you always”. What this statement says is “I’m not always honest with you but this time I will be.”
Doesn’t it sound so much better to use the word “candid” instead of “honest”. I’ll even take a “frank” just drop “honest”.
I’ve always felt like the phrase “I have to be honest with you…” is just a disclaimer for saying something hurtful or offensive (“Hey…I was being honest.”) and, most of the time, would be completely unnecessary if we chose our words more carefully. On the other hand, I’ve used it recently to convey sincerity…I didn’t want the person to think that I was just blowing smoke.
You get bothered too easily. Honestly…
I also hate it when people (especially those in the South) say something insulting about another person and then conclude their statement with “…bless their heart”. Do they “honestly” think the person they are insulting isn’t insulted when they “bless their heart?”. “Frankly,” they are liars too…”bless their hearts”.
“To be truthful with you” Hello !!! aren’t you always truthful….you’re absolutely correct…it does place doubt in your thought process …” is this person sroking me or what?”
yes ,ITS TRUE I CAME FROM IRAN AND I’M 44 YEARS OLD . AND FOR YEARS I HAVE BEEN SAYING TO PEOPLE DO YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN ????? A LOT AND I DO USE THIS IN MY CONVERSATION,BUT THERE ARE A LOT PEOPLE FROM OTHER CULTURES THAT USE A LOT OF WORDS THAT HAVE STAYED IN THEIR TONGUE PER SAY ,THAT I THINK ITS JUST A NORMAL EVERY DAY THING FOR THEM ,THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT EVERY TIME THEY SAY TO YOU ,,! YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN ,THAT THEY ARE SAYING THAT YOUR STUPID,,TS JUST IN THEIR EVERY DAY VOCABULARY,WELL,! I THINK AS LONG AS THE PERSON IS NICE AND KIND WHO AM I TO SAY WHO SAID WHAT? BUT YET IN THE SAME TIME TOO, WE HAVE TO THINK THERE ARE TIMES WE MAKE /?????? MISTAKES AND WE ARE ARE NOT PERFECT AND SOME TIMES WE JUDGE,,,,,,! THATS WHY WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS AND NOT GOD!!!!!(SO THAT SEPERATES US FROM GOD AND HI CREATION CHRIST)THATS WHY HE WAS PERFECT IN EVERY WITCH WAY AND WE ARE NOT ????????!!!!!!<<<<<<<<<,YOURS TRULY,,,,,,,,SOPHIA,SOHRABIAN